In December 2007 I, along with 4800 other employees of a global giant were outsourced and made redundant.
Between Christmas and April 2008 I paid maintenance of $1100 per month, and my ex-wife extorted around $6000 from me by using the children as weapons and made several threats if I didnâ€™t keep handing over money.
I had absolutely no idea how the â€œsystemâ€ worked, all I knew what that the terrorist organisations Centrelink and Child Support Agency would be of no help. Indeed, my ex-wife threatened I would not see my kids again if I told Centrelink and CSA I had lost my job. By March I was in a desperate financial situation.
With no income I could not pay child support and I told Centrelink and CSA of my situation and sparked a violent retaliation and spate of false accusations to both Centrelink and CSA which overtook my life in defending.
My ex-wife stated that if I didnâ€™t stop paying rent and give her the money she would destroy me. She stated it was my responsibility to ensure she never had to work or support herself or the children. At the time I thought she could not actually do that. How wrong I was!
She started leaving bills on my doorstep, stopped paying for the kids sporting activities, stopped clothing them adequately, and ramped up extortion, threatening disadvantage to the kids if I didnâ€™t pay up.
In August 2008 I started working for myself through a computer servicing franchise, having obtained a large unsecured loan. Unfortunately, it didnâ€™t go very well.
In February of 2009 my ex-wife noticed a large franchise sign posted at a local sporting venue, which she alleged was mine. It wasnâ€™t, but she stated she knew how expensive advertising was, and I was therefore making considerable income from the franchise. Nothing could be further from the truth. She stated if I didnâ€™t start paying her enough money to quit work and support her and the kids she would make me regret it.
At the same time she was being supported by her new boyfriend, living at home with her mother, and got off completely free with no debt (I got all that).
In late May of 2009 she kept her promise. She made a false allegation to Centrelink stating I was earning considerable undeclared income at the same time as claiming new start. I was making no income, and under section 4.6 of the social security legislation I was entitled to claim new start. However, Centrelink, being the biased organisation that they are came after me with a vengeance.
Centrelink forced me to shut the business down at the threat of withdrawing benefits. Then they demanded all my records, in original form which they promised they would copy and return. Centrelink then put me on a very short leash and it was not until March 2010 that they finally closed the case. In the meantime, my physical and mental health had declined markedly, and I ended up on an outreach program trying to cope with the continual onslaught from my ex-wife, which persists to this day, more than 3 years later.
The outcome â€“ My credit rating got destroyed. I defaulted on the bank loan, I lost my business, I became financially destitute, had to sell many of my assets and am now looking at filing for bankruptcy.
To make matters worse, Centrelink lost my records. As such, I had nothing I could file a tax return with. I applied to the Australian Taxation office for a private ruling to allow certain documents to be used as evidence of expenditure. They took 5 months to reject my application, and threatened me with fines for unfiled tax returns. To this day Iâ€™m still waiting on the ATO to make a determination on what documents they will allow me to use.
Written by fathersdomatter – published exclusively on F4E on 4th November, 2010